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The famous feminist Maria Arbatova became famous not only as a TV star. She raised 25-year-old twin sons, wrote 14 plays and 13 books, received the fourth Golden Lioness in the social year, and headed a political organization. The only place where she is surrounded by men is at home. Maria was destined to lead in it. As a result, Arbatova's second marriage has cracked - divorce is approaching. Kipling believed that "a man remembers three women: the first, the last and the one." It turned out that Maria’s memory is structured similarly. The expert “on women’s souls” was married twice: to Alexander Miroshenko and Oleg Vite. Now there is a new man in her life...

She was lucky with her husbands. Shortly after the divorce, she had to iron her skirt herself for the first time in many years. And what her husbands did instantly and masterfully, in her hands ended in a burnt spot, burnt fingers and whining into the telephone receiver: “Kitten, why did I divorce you?”

Guest performer Alexander

Maria considers her first marriage, which lasted 17 years, to be bohemian and emotional. She met her husband Sasha, a student at Gnesinka, at the age of 18 in the then fashionable Aromat cafe, where hippies, artists and musicians gathered. On the third day of their acquaintance, they submitted an application to the registry office. On the eve of the wedding ceremony, Maria took the last entrance exam to the Literary Institute. And at that time the groom ran to buy her shoes. Not knowing the size, he took a couple sizes larger... A year later, twins were born. While raising children, the young housewife mother earned practically no money. It was then that female social activity awoke in her: “In order not to kill anyone from sitting at home, I began to write plays and vigorously took up the literary and theatrical social life. My first husband was a typical macho and an ideal partner in everyday life, one of those who carries everything into the house, making things around the clock. He had only one drawback: touring for six months.”

Superfull Oleg

The second marriage lasted 8 years. According to Maria, he was very politicized, correct and boring. She met Oleg on October 4, 1993, the day of her divorce from Alexander. After a week of the affair, Oleg decided to divorce his first wife, but the formalities dragged on until April. The wedding fell on the 19th - the day I met my first husband. Arbatova rescheduled it for April 16. The second wedding was also chaotic. This time, Maria was in a hurry with the stamp in order to distance herself from her first husband, she was afraid of his unpredictable antics and in her haste forgot to buy a white dress: “With it, I was amazed to discover that a man has an opinion about how and what should happen in everyday life: reception guests, arranging furniture, preparing soup... He is actively

He encouraged my career and took pleasure in solving everyday problems. He is one of those super-full men who believe that they only need spiritual and sexual intimacy from a woman. Therefore, they cannot be married to a plate of soup and an ironed shirt every morning. We parted ways in a restaurant, celebrating the anniversary of our acquaintance."

Putin is already married

Arbatova calls both of her divorces social. The first husband was unable to take an adult approach to the changes in the country, fell into depression and dumped all his problems on his wife. The second marriage was broken by elections to the State Duma. In critical situations, she needed her husband's protection. She didn't receive it. “When I divorced Oleg,” says Maria, “my sons joked: “Mamik, you need a man who is stronger than you.” And where can I get him, because Putin is already married.”

- Were your divorces inevitable?

I know for sure that you need to get a divorce when you realize the volume of accumulated problems that cannot be overcome even with a strong desire. It's like swimming in a storm: you need to calculate which wave will lift you up and which wave will bury you. If you are a little late with the divorce, then not only the family, but also human relationships will be ruined.

- Did you go into big politics from your spouse’s team?

This team threw me into the hands of the bandits, making an agreement behind my back with my competitor. As a result, for six months my sons lived with death threats, and I went with security. Of course, I had a complaint against Oleg. And by his standards, everything was a normal industrial conflict.

- A strong woman has a henpecked husband. Is this about you?

I was Oleg Vite’s fifth wife. Do you think there are henpecked people with a passport that has nowhere to put a stamp?

New man

Exactly on her wedding anniversary with her second husband - April 16 - Maria met her new chosen one, behind the scenes of the State Kremlin Palace at an awards ceremony. “We said hello backstage, then I saw Him on stage, we talked quite a bit, but everything was already clear...” recalls Arbatova. “He’s a pop

I managed to write down my mobile phone for him, I wrote it down. He was surprised and asked: “Why are you recording my mobile phone for me? Write down yours.” It turned out that only one digit in our phone numbers does not match. This seemed like a clear signal of something beyond our control. The funny thing is that this man consists of the best qualities of both my husbands. His name is also Alexander, and he is also a singer, like my first husband. He is a psychotherapist, he has a completely analytical brain, and he comes from Leningrad, like Oleg."

Maria's new hobby is emigrant from the USA Alexander Rapoport. He left Russia 12 years ago after serving 4 years and knew that if he stayed, he would end up in prison again. He was imprisoned as a doctor who refused to sign psychiatric diagnoses for dissidents. Having worked as a taxi driver in the USA for six months, Alexander confirmed his professional qualifications. Today Rapoport is the most famous psychotherapist in Russian America, hosts a program on radio and TV, and gives concerts as a chanson performer.

He is used to women looking at him like a god, and everything Maria does is “manly behavior” for him. This is a serious problem in a relationship, but so far the attraction is stronger than the civil war within the novel; and like two people involved in psychology, they manage to come to an agreement. Maria is smart enough to step on her own ambitions and learn from him.

- Doesn’t it bother you that Alexander is married?..

Love is not determined by the presence or absence of a stamp. In my passport, for example, there is a stamp about my last marriage. But I’m not going to sign any mutual obligations with anyone yet. I am 45 years old, I have already been married for a total of 25 years, practically most of my life. And I want to breathe deeply for a while.

- So, at 45 - the woman is a berry again?

I look with bewilderment at women who hide their years and disguise themselves as eternal girls. Every year I find life more interesting: problems go away, complexes disappear, and you begin to enjoy life to the fullest.

About family
I have an ideal family. True, this is my third marriage, but I am friends with all my husbands. I am able to do almost everything myself, so for me the man I love is, first of all, a partner. We help each other develop and move forward.

About loneliness
I've been married three times. And naturally I had intervals when I took a break from the relationship. Then she woke up and hummed a song by Alexander Vertinsky, performed by Grebenshchikov:

How nice it is to wake up alone
In your cozy bachelor flat
And know that you don't owe anyone
Give a report to no one in the world.
I enjoyed the solitude. But about 2-3 years passed, she again found her “ideal” man and married him.

About household duties
Nowadays, the position of men and women is equalizing. New generations are building better families, with a clear division of responsibilities and personal space. Marriage contracts are becoming more and more popular in our country. They often stipulate that the husband needs to take on half of the household responsibilities. I think this is correct. I instilled in my children the idea that there is no division of labor into “male” and “female”. That's why they married not a bowl of soup, but beautiful, intelligent girls.

About children
I have gorgeous sons! They have a wonderful father, and I was able to explain that work is never divided into “male” and “female”, they are very independent. In general, I think that boys and girls should be raised the same. Then they will be absolutely harmonious.

About relationships
I remember the words of Akhmatova: “You only need to live with someone you cannot live without.” Now society is being reconstructed, a single woman is no longer an “old maid” or a “divorcee.” More and more people are beginning to understand that a man and a woman have equal rights and should live together if they love each other and feel good together. Such couples are happy and the format of marriage is not at all important. I wish everyone such unions.

REFERENCE

Maria Ivanovna Arbatova was born on July 17, 1957 in the city of Murom, Vladimir region. Author of 14 plays staged in Russia and abroad, including “The Envious” (1979), “Alekseev and the Shadows” (1984), more than 20 books, the first of which is “Plays for Reading” (1991). She has written more than 70 journalistic articles. Member of the Moscow Writers' Union and the Russian Theater Workers' Union, president of the Women's Assistance Center.

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Childhood and youth

Masha Gavrilina was born in Murom on July 17, 1957. Zodiac sign - Cancer. A year later, the family moved to the capital of Russia. The girl's parents are true intellectuals. Father is deputy editor-in-chief of the daily newspaper Krasnaya Zvezda, journalist and philosophy teacher. His mother, Jewish by nationality, received a degree in microbiology. In the 90s, the woman became interested in alternative medicine.

In addition to Maria, an older brother, Sergei, was growing up in the family, about whom little is known in the press. The writer herself recalled that childhood could hardly be called easy. In an interview, the future feminist said that since childhood she suffered from lameness and received a disability group. The father died when his daughter was ten. Mother and older brother vigilantly controlled Masha, which caused outright rebellion in the teenager.

The girl was distinguished by her tenacity and tough disposition. She refused to join the Komsomol because it contradicted her views and life ideals.

A couple of years before graduation, the mother registered her daughter in two rooms on Arbat, bought by her great-grandfather. There the girl organized the “Masha from Arbat Salon” - a meeting place for Soviet hippies, of which the girl quickly became the leader. Then the pseudonym Arbatov appeared, which would later become the official surname.

As a teenager, the future writer and feminist attended the School of Young Journalists at the Faculty of Journalism of Moscow State University. However, the girl entered the main university of the capital at the Faculty of Philosophy.

According to the student, due to strong ideological pressure, she changed her plans for a career as a philosopher, entering and graduating from the Gorky Literary Institute. In addition to writing, the girl studied the intricacies of psychoanalysis from B. G. Kravtsov.

Career

According to the writer, maternity leave prompted her to write. In order not to go crazy from everyday life and routine, the young mother writes her first play, “The Envious.” In total, playwright Arbatova has written 14 plays. The latter was created in 1994. According to the author, the disappointment with the drama is due to the fact that the male director does not understand its intention.

With the advent of the harsh 90s, Arbatova’s knowledge of psychoanalysis came in handy. Since 1991, the woman has led the Harmony psychological rehabilitation club.

Later, the multifaceted Arbatova began to emerge as a TV presenter and political figure. For five years she acted as a columnist for the socio-political publication Obshchaya Gazeta. Together with her, she hosted the popular talk show for women “I Am Myself” on the TV-6 channel. On the air of this program, for the first time, she publicly announced the new concept of feminism for Russia and her belonging to the movement.

Maria Arbatova in the show "I Myself"

She received an invitation to become an expert in writing a program for the presidential election campaign and the first female candidate for the post of head of the country.

In 1996, Arbatova and like-minded women opened the “Club of Women Intervening in Politics.” The organization performs an educational function and was created to increase the political literacy and importance of women. Since 2012, Maria Arbatova has been the president of the Women's Assistance Center, which provides support to those in difficult life situations.

There were also attempts by feminists and human rights activists to directly participate politically in the life of the country. Maria ran for the State Duma several times. Unfortunately, her rivals bypassed the candidate in the elections.

The development of the creativity of Arbatova the writer continues. The author's books are based on personal observations and are autobiographical. After a visit to India, the work “Tasting India” appeared with a detailed description of the trip.

The novel “A Week in Manhattan” was published, in which the writer shares her unflattering impressions. By the way, the feminist has spoken negatively about America and the inhabitants of this country before. A quote from an interview with Pravda.ru in 2012 that this country is “a collection of stump people who can be kept together only on a financial basis in order to fight with someone,” frankly reflects the attitude of the human rights activist.

By the way, there is also an autobiography in the list of Arbatova’s works. The book “I'm 46” amazes with the frankness of the realist author, who told the details of childhood, relationships with parents and husbands. Maria Ivanovna also tried her hand as a screenwriter. The film adaptation of the biography of intelligence officer Zoya Voskresenskaya in the episode of the “Fights” project “The Two Lives of Colonel Rybkina” became one of such successful works by Arbatova.

Maria Arbatova and her book "Cinema, Wine and Dominoes"

The fighter for women's rights remains a prominent media personality, whose opinions are heard from television screens. He speaks sharply in articles and posts on his personal LiveJournal blog, as well as on his account "Facebook". Thus, in 2017, Arbatova spoke unflatteringly about her political ambitions. The writer never had a high opinion of her daughter.

The human rights activist became a participant in television shows with hot scandalous topics and heroines, where she did not hesitate to use fair sarcasm and well-aimed attacks. These were the programs “Live” about, “Let Them Talk” about and the scandal with the actress’s adopted son.

Maria Arbatova and Roza Syabitova "Let them talk"

Some of the shootings and phrases of the writer led to a real scandal. This happened on the site of the same “Let them talk.” Maria Ivanovna allowed a harsh judgment about. The writer doubted that it was possible to be a successful matchmaker, having such a negative marital experience as the TV presenter. The main TV matchmaker was offended by the harsh sarcasm addressed to her and hurried to leave the studio, but, unable to stand on her stiletto heels, fell on the steps.

For the public, and especially for feminist activists, Arbatova’s sharp protest against the release of ex-YUKOS lawyer Svetlana Bakhminova in 2008 was surprising. Maria Ivanovna unequivocally stated that the thief should be in prison.

Maria Arbatova in the program "To the Barrier"

The topic was developed in the program “To the Barrier”, where Maria became an opponent. , a writer and host of the “School of Scandal” (of which Arbatova once became the heroine), said that the position of the human rights activist is disgusting.

We can conclude that, being a feminist, Arbatova does not hesitate to criticize women. The writer supports the position of some men, for example, Maria’s vision of the socio-political situation is clearly appealing.

Personal life

Despite her clearly unmodel appearance, Arbatova does not complain about the lack of men in her life. The writer was officially married three times. From the first, twin sons were born. The children have grown up long ago, one of the sons is a psychologist, the second is a public figure.

The men in the feminist's life replaced each other, not allowing her to feel lonely. The writer met her second husband on the day of her divorce from her first. The current husband is an Indian prince by birth, a financial analyst, and the nephew of the leader of the Communist Party of India.

All three times the marriage was concluded quickly. As Arbatova says, a man who does not get his way without additional effort has practically no meaning. By her own admission, she simply does not have time for the bouquet period.

At the same time, the writer does not care about her appearance, does not visit beauty salons, and has no idea about her own weight, because she has not weighed herself since pregnancy. She allows herself to eat whatever she wants, whenever she wants. Quoting Maria Ivanovna:

“If a girl is loved by her father, then men love her later.”

Arbatova recalls that her father adored her. Perhaps this is where the success of a feminist with the opposite sex lies. The writer spoke about this and other details of her personal life on the air of the program “Wives. A Love Story.”

Maria Arbatova now

Arbatova continues to be involved in social activities and promotes the ideas of feminism. In 2018, on the Spas channel, Maria took part in the “I Don’t Believe” program with her opponent, priest Pavel Ostrovsky. The broadcast raised issues of the rights and place of women in the church, the legality of abortion and the problem of domestic violence.

Maria Arbatova in the program “I Don’t Believe”

Arbatova actively publishes on the blog, preferring LiveJournal to Instagram and Twitter. As a real writer and publicist, Maria Ivanovna prefers long posts and stories to short quotes and photos. In addition, the latest news, publications and works are posted on Arbatova’s personal website.

Bibliography

• 1991 - "Plays for Reading"
• 1998 - “My name is woman”
• 2000 - "Mobile communications"
• 2002 - "The Experience of Social Sculpture"
• 2004 - "I'm 46"
• 2004 - "Love of American Cars"
• 2006 - "Tasting India"
• 2007 - “How I tried to honestly get into the Duma”
• 2009 - “Cinema, Wine and Dominoes”
• 2017 - "A Week in Manhattan"

The husband is 10 years younger than the writer

The husband is 10 years younger than the writer

Maria ARBATOVA is our domestic Elizabeth HURLEY: like a Hollywood diva, the famous writer and feminist married an Indian aristocrat. But if Liz’s marriage with the Indian millionaire ultimately collapsed (a few months ago the couple filed for divorce), then Maria Ivanovna has been happily living with the Bengali prince Shumit DATTA GUPTA for the sixth year. Which clearly proves: our women are no match for their glamorous stars: Russian women will stop a galloping horse and tie a foreign prince tightly to them. The couple recently demonstrated that their union is becoming stronger day by day at the presentation of the Super National Best literary award: all evening Shumit did not leave his wife, touchingly courting her like a real princess and entertaining her in every possible way.

During the ceremony, Shumit followed his famous half everywhere, like a shadow, modestly keeping a step behind her. While Arbatova was enthusiastically talking with Artemy Troitsky, her Indian husband got hold of two glasses of champagne, one of which he handed to his wife. And then he carefully moved the chair away so that the wife could sit down and not bother her legs. He himself quietly stood behind the back of her chair, without interfering with Maria’s conversation with the other guests of the evening. “Mentally, Indians are very suitable as husbands. The Indian man is dedicated to family, to children. He’s just a fan,” Arbatova assures in almost every interview. And it seems that she is not far from the truth.

The most famous feminist writer in Russia does not hide the fact that her husband is much younger than her - by as much as ten years. Nevertheless, Arbatova, who will celebrate her 54th birthday in July, has something to attract her Indian husband - after two previous marriages, she has accumulated a wealth of experience in family life.

My zodiac sign is Cancer and I am one of the women who cook very well and masterfully juggle housework,” Arbatova assures.

With my first husband, a classical singer Alexander Miroshnik, the writer lived for 17 years, with her second, a political expert Oleg Vite- 8 years. And now, finally, the famous author has finally found happiness and peace with her third husband, financial analyst Shumit. Arbatova's husband is a physicist by training and has lived in Russia since 1985.

I met my current husband when I hosted a human rights program on Mayak radio,” Maria said in an interview. “I wanted to make a program about Indian democracy, and my assistant found Shumit via the Internet. He is a prince by birth, and after the coup, his relatives, having been in prison for participating in the anti-British resistance, became a powerful political clan. My uncle created and led the Communist Party of India, my aunt became a national heroine.

According to Maria, she understood at first sight that she would marry a foreign prince. It would seem that living with a young husband requires you to take very good care of your appearance: usually ladies whose spouses are much younger do not leave beauty salons and constantly lose weight. Arbatova reasonably believes that there is no need to torment yourself with fashionable diets - the body itself knows what it needs. And family happiness does not depend on this at all.

The body itself knows how much it weighs, the writer believes. If it requires an extra piece, it means it needs to extinguish some anxiety. By taking away a piece, you do not reduce this anxiety, but only transform it into a symptom or depression. This is Trishkin’s caftan. At fifty years old, I know for sure that beauty salons and weight loss culture are one hundred percent a scam by malicious, glamorous scammers. For the last thirty years, most of the women I know have been plowing in the areas of the first and second. I cannot say that at the same time they look better than me, are happy in their marriages and are especially in demand by the opposite sex... I look with bewilderment at women who hide their years and disguise themselves as eternal girls. I don’t hide my age, moreover, every year I find life more and more interesting.

Born on July 17, 1957 in the city of Murom, Vladimir region. She studied at the Faculty of Philosophy of Moscow State University, graduated from the Literary Institute (1979; drama seminar by V. Rozov and I. Vishnevskaya).
She made her debut as a playwright; author of 14 plays, including “Alekseev and the Shadows” (M.: Teply Stan, 1990) and “The Taking of the Bastille”, staged in theaters in Russia, England, Germany and the USA. He publishes prose and essays in the weekly “Book Review” and the magazines “New Book Review” and “Golden Age”. Arbatova’s self-assessment: “I would call myself the first feminist writer in a post-Soviet country” (“Book Review”, September 12, 1995), is also confirmed by expert assessments in periodicals: “The Volga River. Poet - Pushkin. Feminist - Masha Arbatova. Anyone who watches TV knows this” (“Novoye Vremya”, August 1, 1999), and memories of the role of the governess of domestic feminism, which M. Arbatova played in the popular television program “I Myself” (1995-99).
President of the feminist club "Harmony", coordinator of the "Club of Women Intervening in Politics". In 1999, she unsuccessfully ran as an independent candidate for the State Duma of the Russian Federation.
She was awarded the gold medal of the Cambridge Biographical Center “For her contribution to the development of culture of the 20th century”, and was awarded prizes at the competition of young playwrights of the Union of Theater Workers of the USSR (1985, 1990), the International Radio Drama Competition (1992), the Literary News newspaper (1994), and the Bonn Theater Biennale (1995), the American drama competition “New Voices from Russia”, the weekly “Literary Russia” (2002).
Since 2003, Maria Arbatova has been the leader of the Human Rights Party.